be patient with urself

Why are we so hard on ourselves, and in the most discouraging and hurtful ways? When we tell ourselves that we aren’t smart enough, strong enough, beautiful enough, or worth enough, that doesn’t push us to anything but sorrow, despair, loneliness. We should be our biggest supporters, but instead we are our worst enemies. Worst yet? We expect great things from us, despite the terrible things we tell ourselves. And when we fail to deliver, despite the horrible odds we give ourselves? We beat ourselves down more. We slash our own tires and throw the keys off the mountain top, then torture ourselves for not winning the race. We couldn’t even begin it. You can do anything, my friends, but not if you don’t give yourself a chance. And you deserve a chance. A real chance; not one that you have already set yourself up to fail at.

We look at other people as our enemy, but in reality, no one can make us feel anything that we don’t already somewhat feel about ourselves. They say the door most be open already for the intruder to enter, and it is true. We do not take other’s comments to heart unless we already doubt ourselves; we do not believe when others say we cannot unless we already wonder if we COULD. Protect yourself from negative situations, but be aware of who the real enemy is; it’s inside you, telling you that you are already the best possible version of you can be, and somehow, that isn’t good enough to be loved, appreciated, or happy. It’s a lie, my friends. You have so much potential. And every piece of you has a purpose, either to get you to your dreams, or to challenge you along the way so that you can become how strong, courageous, and loving you need to be to handle those dreams. Even our shortcomings and failures serve a purpose; sometimes, what goes wrong is more important than what goes right. It shows us what we need to work on to be able to handle this life we are trusted with.

Give yourself a break, you are fighting hard battles. Life isn’t easy, and it’s not supposed to be. An easy road is paved, but no flowers grow on it. There are no sights worth seeing and there is no challenge to make everything worth it. Love the hard road; it’s what makes your story as beautiful and invigorating as it will be. Your life prepares you to meet YOU, so appreciate the challenges. Everything you overcome gives you one more piece of who you CAN be, and as the pieces add up, you will be amazed at who you find looking back at you in the mirror. The amazing thing about all of this? It’s you. And it’s ALWAYS been you. You just didn’t realize it. And you won’t, until you meet them in person. The person capable of living your dreams every day is inside you already, you just have to let them out, and it happens every day, challenge by challenge, tear by tear, smile by smile, piece by piece. Have faith you will meet them one day. And it will be more amazing than you can imagine.

They say the two most important days in your life are the day you were born, and they day you find out WHY. You have it inside you, you always have. And each day, each challenge, each step you take gets you closer and closer to bringing what COULD be out into the world. Through you. So smile at the thought, you deserve to love the person inside of you. Laugh freely, take chances, love fully, and be kind often. Every action you do brings you closer to meeting YOU, and the best thing about it all? You help others meet the person inside them every day, too. Not only are you discovering your pieces to the puzzle, you are helping others, even without realizing it. And they need you, more than you can imagine. If that doesn’t motivate you, what will?

Take a step today towards your dreams, my friends. But before you do, look in the mirror, and smile. Give yourself a break. You are growing. And I cannot wait to see what you become, because you are already more important, strong, and beautiful than you can imagine. Be a sign, we need you.